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The Problem with Indifference

“Now, we must all fear evil men. But there is another kind of evil which we must fear most, and that is the indifference of good men.” -Boondock Saints

This could probably be my favorite quote ever.  It rings so true, no matter the time period.  There may be evil in the world, but there is no way for us to defeat evil if people keep turning blind eyes to the trouble.

What do people say about rapists and pedophiles, traffickers and murders?  That they’re rare, that they aren’t in my neighborhood, that their crimes couldn’t effect me.  And yet we hear about it everyday.  The victim is blamed.  Surely they did something, because there is no way that just happens to the average person!  No way that could happen to me!

And so, crime goes on because the general public is too afraid to even admit that evil is there.  We become apathetic to the troubles of others, fearing the world outside of our volunteered ignorance.

But I’ll tell you something.  If we all admitted that things were wrong, the majority of us would be in the fight against these evil people.  We would quickly take charge of situations where someone was in danger.  No longer would people stand by and watch, but they would get involved and save the victim.

If evil can’t hide behind our apathy, then evil has no where to hide.  So call the cops when you see a crime being committed, defend people who are being hurt, and be aware of the cruelty in your world.  We can stop it if we stop denying it.


Modern Day Slavery: A Problem for the Whole World


I learned a great deal about human trafficking yesterday in my capstone class.  It was inadvertent, as we were supposed to be learning about how to use the library resources, but my topic of human trafficking in the Midwest was used, and most of the time nothing came up.  It wasn’t so much human trafficking as the Midwest that was hard to pin down, but when it came to recent news, there were a lot of pings.  In fact, Google was kind enough to autofill “Human trafficking in Indiana”, where I live.  One woman was so surprised that she read the line out loud.  Human trafficking in Indiana?

A few people laughed uncomfortably, realizing that this should not shock anyone.  But I heard the thought process across the room, because I had heard it out loud before.  Human trafficking can’t happen here!  That’s so third world!

Unfortunately, the case stands.  To believe that you are safe from human travesty is just a self defense mechanism.  Sex trafficking happens in third world countries.  Sex trafficking happens here.

People get sick and die in third world countries because they can’t access health care.

People get sick and die in America because they can’t access health care.

People are raped and beaten with no legal recourse.

And we are all forced to listen to people in power make remarks that hurt us and undermine our lives.

This is no third world experience.  This is the human experience.  And when it comes right down to it, we are no different than our ancestors.  Our house is still a hut designed to protect us from wild animals and intruders.  We still use light to protect ourselves from being snatched up in the darkness.  We still eat animals and food from the ground.  We still live in tribes and defend ourselves from the other tribes.

Empires have risen and fallen, and despite the common idea that America was there yesterday and will be there tomorrow, we still live in a system that allows nations to crumble to the ground and be built back up as new nations.

So yes, modern day slavery in the Midwest may resonate as impossible, but it happens every day.  Ohio just found out that an average of 1000 children are taken into slavery every year in their state.

Don’t deny that crimes are happening around you!  Defend your tribe!  Defend yourself!  Expose the dangers that are taking over our lives!

You do not live in a different world from anyone else.  You just wish you did.

An Empty Phrase

I wanted to start this post by apologizing for what I’m about to say, but I should really stop that.  I have every right to my opinion, as do you.  So… This is my opinion, and if you don’t like it, then that’s cool by me.

Anyway, I realized today that I get really pissed off when people say that things happen for a reason.  They’re taking responsibility out of their hands and saying that the universe has some ultimate plan.

Stop that.  It takes power away from you and gives credence to evil in the world.

I’m not saying, “It happened for a reason” is a bad phrase.  I’m saying the way people use the phrase is bullshit.

When someone is raped, it did happen for a reason.  And that reason is that someone else was cruel enough to rape that person.  Don’t blame supernatural forces, because whatever you believe, we all know that we have free will.  We are born with free will.  And everything that happens on this planet that is due to a person is due to free will.

It happened for a reason.  A horrible reason that can be prevented if we just work together.  Ultimate plans are based on our actions, and this is no test.  You are not being tested for fortitude or faith when another person with free will strips you of your power and does violence against you.

We create the reasons.  We are the force behind our actions.

And another thing, oh everything-happens-for-a-reason people!  I’m tired of hearing that phrase when natural disasters happen.  “God is punishing those people for something!  It’s their fault!”

That’s bullshit too.  God didn’t just decide to hate on everyone living on the coast.  And what kind of human decency are you showing?  Would you go up to your friend after their house burned down and say, “Well, it’s your own damn fault.  You’re a horrible fucking person”?  No, you would not!  No one deserves to be told they’re bad, especially after their livelihood is taken away from them.  Who are you to judge an entire population because a natural disaster happened?  How are you any better than them?  Just because you didn’t live next to the water doesn’t make you a fucking saint!

Anyway… *deep breath* I think the world would be a lot better off if we stopped judging each other and took responsibility for our world.  We live here with our free will, and have every ability to make it better, even in hard times.  So get up off your ass and help someone.


PS: Thank you, Nataliuh, for helping spark this blog!  I hope this is basically where your anger comes from!

Stop Using the Enemy’s Tools

Well, this has been bugging me for awhile, and I’m not sure if I’m going to offend someone.  Either way, I have to get it off my chest.  I’m never pleased when rape culture crops up.  I was furious about what Daniel Tosh said, and Justin Bieber’s comments made me grimace.

Although, I have to agree with this woman.  Justin, I think, was fourteen when he said this, and I don’t think it’s right to criticize a boy who’s probably just repeating what his parents said.

But that isn’t what this post is about.  It’s about how people react to these comments.  We want to stop perpetuating rape culture, and yet when someone is angry about a comment made, they hope that the person making the comment gets raped themselves.

How is this fixing the problem?  How are we helping the situation when we hope the worst on another human being because they offended us?  No one, and let me make myself absolutely clear, no one deserves to be raped.  If we want to stop rape from happening, then we have to stop using it as a weapon.  Fire does not, in fact, fight fire; it makes it worse.  And those of us offended should be the last to stoop to the level of hoping rape on another person.  If the people who want to stop rape culture are the ones perpetuating it, then we have no chance of eliminating it.

So, I’m pleading with you.  The next time you are upset with someone for saying horrible things, don’t use the same words.  We have a plethora of other words to use to fight against cruel comments.  I want this world to be better, and I know we dream of a world where rape doesn’t even come up, so take the first step, and don’t use the enemy’s tools.

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