Women, you have my support and love.

by wildfeministappears

Women have always fascinated me.  The way they move throughout the day with confidence, but constantly hiding some sort of pain. There is something behind the eyes of every woman that says, “I’ve been through hell, still going through it, but today has to happen.”  And they face new challenges everyday, whether from the government, their job, their peers, or even their loved ones.  But they still continue.

I know why I continue.  I’ve been through that hell, I’ve experienced the new day with the hope that maybe I won’t be the victim for someone.  I’ve gotten to the point that I broke up with my abusive boyfriend because I realized that my life was nothing but victimhood, and I would rather go down fighting then live another day expecting to be hurt.  But I’m not that person anymore.  I’m more than what others want me to be, and I know some people would rather I not be the person I am.

Feminism cleared up a lot of questions for me.  How could I help others to make sure they didn’t go through what I went through?  How could I find a group of people who understood my passions and didn’t judge me for them?  How could I be angry without looking petty?  And I learned.  I submerged myself into the culture, and came into myself with a power that I didn’t know I had.  Where did the victim go, the one who backed down from everything because she knew she wasn’t good enough?  And who is this person, the one who will stand up to anyone who fights against what she believes in?

Leymah Gbowee helped me to solidify how I was feeling.  She said, “In order for reconciliation to happen, people must have a generous spirit.”  And I believe that.  Because I work for others, because I know that my problems cannot be solved without dealing with the larger issue at hand, I can be strong and powerful.  I can stand up for myself, because I’m not standing merely for myself, but for every woman.  And I love every woman that I meet.  No matter what their lives are like.  No matter what they have done, are going through, have survived, haven’t left yet.

Women are amazing.  They are innovative, strong, caring, passionate, creative, and have the capacity to stand against whatever comes.  That’s why all the bad news doesn’t get me down.  No matter how desperate the situation seems, we are always moving upwards, always inevitably winning.  It is not just the government that fears women gaining power, however.  It’s everyone.  Even other women.  Because we see weakness in ourselves.  We aren’t sure that we can save ourselves, let alone the world.  But I know that we can.  I know that women have the power to be their full 51 percent of the world and take charge, because I’ve seen it.  Every woman is out there saying, “I’ve been through hell, still going through it, but today has to happen.”  Today will happen.  Our future will happen.  And I believe in the capacity of women to do what needs to be done to get us there.